Shaming our kids - good intentions, yet with unintended poor consequences. We’ve all done it. Parenting out of exasperation. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter take a careful look at the messages we are sending our kids. Fortunately, a very healthy and redemptive future is possible.
| What is Shame? | Effects of Shame | Examples of Parental Shame | High-stakes Moments for Shame | How do we unwind Shame? | Discipline that doesn’t Shame. | Nature of Shame |
| The idea that a person is, at their core, bad, unwanted and beyond repair. | Shame pushes your child into isolation. | “I don’t care!” | When our kids are being creative. | Call your child out from hiding and into community. | Separates their behavior from their personal worth. | Shame shames. |
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| Shame says there is no hope. Because I’m broken and no one wants me. | “You are the only 10-year-old who doesn’t get this!” | When our kids are being vulnerable. | Enjoy your kids. | Breaks the will but not the spirit. | We will shame and will be shamed. |
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| “You will never amount to anything!” | When we downplay interests and abilities that they have because they don’t match our expectations. | Celebrate their person. | Support guilt where it is appropriate. | Shame plays on lies and perpetuates lies. |