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Around the meal table, needs are met. As participants we celebrate the common solution to our physical need - bread. While we do so, bread of another type is broken as well. Help, hope and encouragement are shared to meet the needs of our struggles, heartaches and questions. Breaking Bread is reminiscent of these life giving conversations. This podcast strives to meet some of our common needs through our common solution – The Bread of Life.
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Around the meal table, needs are met. As participants we celebrate the common solution to our physical need - bread. While we do so, bread of another type is broken as well. Help, hope and encouragement are shared to meet the needs of our struggles, heartaches and questions. Breaking Bread is reminiscent of these life giving conversations. This podcast strives to meet some of our common needs through our common solution – The Bread of Life.

Dec 27, 2021

“Do your best and leave the rest” is a tricky balance for the perfectionist. Yet it sums up a measure of health for those who have high, exacting standards for themselves or others. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Ted Witzig Jr. teaches us about two types of perfectionism.

Show notes

We love perfectionists. Who wouldn’t want a perfectionist as their builder, accountant, or surgeon? Perfectionists hold high standards and are successful and acclaimed because they do. This is precisely why perfectionism is tricky…strengths can become weaknesses.

Three types of perfectionism:

  • Self-oriented perfectionism
    • Definition: A person with very high, exacting standards for themselves.
    • Unhealthy Measure: Specific performance
    • Unhealthy Mindset: It needs to be perfect, or I’ve failed. There is no “good enough” in their thinking.
    • Unhealthy Result: Harsh self-criticism & low self-compassion leading to discouragement & depression
    • Remedy: They need to rethink success and reward the right thing. Was it adequate?
    • Healthy Measure: Wholistic performance over time.
    • Healthy Mindset: They need to understand that they are ‘in progress.’ Growth over time is the measure. Effort is more important than outcome.
  • Other-oriented perfectionism
    • Definition: A person who holds others to very high, exacting standards.
    • Unhealthy Measure: Other people’s performance.
    • Unhealthy Mindset: The belief that they are a guardian of a standard and fear the standard will be dropped.
    • Unhealthy Result: Demanding and controlling towards others. A critical spirit creates distance and resentment between them and for those who they project their very high expectations.
    • Remedy: Don’t be a voice of fear and discouragement to the next “generation”. Rather, teach and empower them.
    • Healthy Measure: Measure the human cost of seeking perfection. Sometimes we can get it wrong by trying to get it right.
    • Healthy Mindset: Trust God. Trust others.
  • Socially-prescribed perfectionism
    • Definition: A person who reacts to their perceived beliefs about what other people expect of them.
    • Unhealthy Measure: Trying to guess other people’s perceptions.
    • Unhealthy Mindset: Getting into someone else’s head. “I think, they think…”
    • Unhealthy Result: Insecurity, people pleasing and fabricated offenses that rob otherwise healthy moments.
    • Remedy: Practice getting out of other people’s heads.
    • Healthy Measure: What am I assuming is true and what do I know to be true?
    • Healthy Mindset: I can’t please everyone.
Dec 13, 2021

Desires can be tricky. Is it okay to have them? Is it okay to voice them? What if I get my way? Does that make me selfish? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter helps us understand how having and voicing desires is not all bad, in fact, it can be healthy.

Unhealthy Desire

Healthy Desire

Desire for things that God has not allowed.

Desire for things that God has given to us to enjoy.

Selfishness: insisting on satisfying one’s desires in a way that brings about strife and is at the expense of others.

Voicing desires while understanding that others have desires that will need to be acknowledged.

Damages relationships.

Enhances relationships.

   
Nov 29, 2021

Vulnerability has become a popular ideal. Authenticity, openness, and being “real” are touted as admirable qualities in our culture. Yet, how does Jesus shape this virtue? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Arlan Miller and Isaac Funk cast a vision for healthy vulnerability and draw from the example of Jesus.

Vulnerability Identifiers…

Jesus teaches us…

  • How to be vulnerable.
  • How to receive the vulnerable.
  • How beauty can be made from the fruit of vulnerability.
Nov 15, 2021

Community has become a popular ideal. A reaction, no doubt, to the ill-effect of our increasingly independent lives. Clubs, groups, associations, and fellowships offer much needed connection and identification for people feeling more and more alone. How is the Christian community unique in providing the connection we fundamentally need? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Arlan Miller and Isaac Funk elevate the community of Jesus.

Community Identifiers

The Christian Community is…

  • God’s ordained way of extending His love to His own people and with the world.
  • The communion of the Holy Spirit living among its participants.
  • A place where people are known and loved.
Nov 1, 2021

The words we use matter: alcoholic, depressed, narcissist, bipolar - these are all examples of labels we use to describe people. Labels stick - for good or bad. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Ted Witzig Jr. helps straighten us out with what sometimes turns into adult name-calling.

There is a difference between using labels “for” or “against” people. When labels are used responsibly, they should reflect reality with the intent to bring understanding and help to people.

Using Labels "for a Person:

  • Labels accurately reflect reality and are used to chart a healthy path forward.
  • Labels are not the primary identification of a person. Rather, for the Christian, Christ’s identity is primary.
  • Change and redemption is possible.

Using Labels "against" a Person:

  • While some labels may accurately reflect reality, they are used to punish or isolate.
  • Labels that do not accurately reflect reality.
  • Labels remain as primary identifier of the individual indefinitely.
  • Change and redemption is not possible.
Oct 18, 2021

Our young people transition into adulthood gradually and with assistance. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kathy Knochel explains the role community plays in this process. She highlights the responsibility that is ours and equips us with the tool set needed to get the job done.

Connect with the young people in your life.

  • Know them.
  • Listen to them.
  • Care for them.
  • Challenge them.
  • Equip them.
  • Give responsibility to them.
  • When they fail, receive them.
Oct 4, 2021

Forgive, overlook and acknowledge - three verbs that give the embittered a path to freedom. None are easy. In in this episode of Breaking Bread, Craig Stickling brings them near and demonstrates the path out from his own life experience.

 

Show notes

 Bitterness has a root:

The root starts with hurt. Hurt that is not properly cared for. This hurt leads to anger. Anger left to seethe and build over time leads to stubbornness. Impenetrable walls are then built to protect. Behind these walls a rebellion settles in.

Bitterness grows:

Minor and major hurtful events stacked one on top of the other over time breeds a canker. The canker travels  its way into many areas of our lives.

Bitterness has a fruit:

The fruit tastes of isolation, division and hardness.

Bitterness has a remedy:

The embittered must engage with the hurt in three ways. Applying forgiveness where they have been sinned against. Overlooking misunderstandings and imperfections where they exist in their offender and acknowledging whatever truth that may exist in the hurt for their personal betterment.  

Sep 20, 2021

Hurt, not properly cared for, can turn to bitterness. Bitterness, not properly cared for, defiles much. In this episode series, Craig Stickling addresses properly caring for hurt and bitterness.  

Sep 6, 2021

Do we love each other because we agree? Or is our love based on something deeper? Surprisingly, conflict exposes the answer. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Matt Kaufmann and Brian Sutter address the nature of conflict and highlight the role our consciences play.

  • God has given everyone a conscience.
  • The conscience gives us a sense of right and wrong.
  • We should listen to our conscience.
  • Our conscience is not perfectly tuned to truth.
  • We should be a steward of our conscience.
  • Scripture should inform our conscience.
  • The Holy Spirit should direct our conscience.
  • Relationships should refine our conscience.
  • When our consciences differ with others, conflict can result.
  • Conflict can help mature our conscience.
  • We should honor another person’s conscience.
Aug 23, 2021

God wants us to know Him. He wants our thoughts towards Him and our feelings about Him to be guided by truth. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Ted Witzig Jr. helps us evaluate our God image and provides tips on how to have an increasingly more accurate view of God.

It is important to note:

  • There are common inaccurate God images. Below are a few examples:
    • “The God of Impossible Expectations” – God holds us to impossible standards and punishes us when we don’t meet them. He is never satisfied.
    • “The Emotionally-Distant God” – God withdraws from us when we go through struggles and difficulties.
    • “The Gotcha God” – God is out to get us. He doesn’t like to see us happy.  He is always looking for a way to ‘pull the rug out’ from under us.
    • “The Hiding God” – God has a will for me but He won’t tell me what it is and will punish me if I don’t find it.
  • There are good ways to recapture an accurate God image. Below are a few suggestions:
    • Don't superimpose your experience onto the scriptures. Instead let the scriptures inform your experiences.
    • Surround yourself with people that model grace and truth and point out God image distortions.
    • Be patient. It takes time to bring healthy correction to our long-held God image. 
    • Memorize Bible verses. Truth is required.
    • Meditate on Bible truth. Personalize the Scriptures by moving the knowledge you’re your head to your heart. 
    • Take time to be still. Sit quietly and deliberately imagine God’s nurturing care, love and reception of you.
Aug 9, 2021

Revealing God the Father to human beings was one of the purposes of Christ’s ministry. He wanted His hearers to know God and to view Him accurately. In this episode, Ted Witzig Jr. explains how our God image is formed and the impact that it has on us. While we will never understand God perfectly in this life, we can work to be sure we are not viewing Him through distorted lenses.

It is important to note…

* Everyone has a God concept and a God image.

* How we picture God and believe He feels toward us are very impactful in how we relate to Him.

* Those things we know about God (i.e., ‘head-knowledge’) make up our God concept.

* Our God concept is formed by information that we learn about Him from the Bible and what others teach us.

* Those things we feel about God, including how we picture Him, feelings we feel toward Him, and how we imagine He feels towards us is called our God image.

* Our God image is formed through life experiences including our relationship with major attachment figures (primarily one’s father and mother).

* Positive influences such as love, security, mercy, and relationships with benevolent authority figures lead toward the development of a healthy God image.

* Trauma, mental illness, loss, and wounded trust are all experiences that can have a negative impact on our God image.

Jul 26, 2021

Am I okay? What do people think of me? Should I be happy with myself? These self- questions highlight insecurity. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Brian Sutter walks us through the finer points of insecurity and presents to us true security.

Insecurities are common among all ages. While the things we seek security in change over time, the fact remains that security is a common human desire. Insecurity is helpful in this way. It highlights our desire for security and prompts us with a critical question, “What should my security be in?” Is it in my job, finances, relationships or looks? Just like financial securities, some are better than others, the securities we desire are not all equal. Who do we seek approval from? What is required for me to be happy with myself? Just how secure are these securities? Most often, we look to securities that are exterior to us-the affirmation of a group, the achievement of a goal. Wonderfully, God is that exterior security He wants us to be settled in. Because of God’s dependability, He is the security that is superior to all others.

Jul 12, 2021

Sometimes interactions are charged with emotion. Often, we react to the escalation only to make it worse. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kaleb Beyer helps us let the steam out of the charged moment so we can have rational dialogue. The key to doing this is called “validation.”

Validation in interpersonal interactions.

What it is.

What it does.

What it looks like.

When do you use it?

What it is not.

Accepting a person’s experience.

Deescalates charged emotional interactions.

Being curious about another person’s experience.

Heated disagreements.

Not reactive

Joining someone in their experience.

Values another’s personhood.

Validating first, correcting second.

When strong negative emotions are present.

Not agreement

Understanding a person’s emotional response.

Puts relationship first.

Showing a person that you “see them.”

When you are calm enough to listen.

Not avoiding

 

Builds connection.

Accept their response.

 

Not argumentative

 

Legitimatizes other’s response.

 

 

 

Jun 28, 2021

Seeking satisfaction happens on many levels, on an array of topics, moment by moment with all of us. Quenching appetites is a daily job. Psalm 90:14 offers four surprising facts about the satisfaction that comes from God. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Arlan Miller and Matt Kaufmann highlight these surprising qualities and muse on how beautifully welcome each one is.

So much time, effort and energy goes into satisfying our appetites. Hunger, thirst, sleep, love, comfort, approval, accomplishment, affirmation, achievement are a few of the many cravings we try to satiate every day. Yet, God’s satisfaction is different - in four ways.

“O satisfy us early with thy mercy; that we may rejoice and be glad all our days. “ Psalm 90:14

Earthly Satisfaction God’s Satisfaction
We prize the pursuit of satisfaction as much or more than the satisfaction itself. For example, eating the meal is pursued and valued as much as the filling. God’s satisfaction is the prize.
Satisfaction comes at the end. For example, at the end of a meal or at the end of a hard day’s work. God’s satisfaction comes early, at the beginning not the ending.
Satisfaction must be earned. For example, you must cook the meal. You must contend, work, strive and achieve to be satisfied. God’s satisfaction is already realized. We enter into his satisfied reality.
Satisfaction expires. For example, we are hungry again. We are thirsty again. We need affirmation again. God’s satisfaction lasts all our days. His satisfaction does not expire.
Jun 14, 2021

Jesus lived among us. He taught us. But more importantly, he exampled for us “the way.” Now we have a chance to follow His lead. But how? In this episode of Breaking Bread, Katie Miller and Marcia Koch share their top three lessons learned from mentoring others.

Notes:  

·         Mentoring is more relational than educational.

o    Be vulnerable and trustworthy.

·         Everyone is unique.

o    Be careful not to over generalize.

·         The cross of Christ is central.

o    Everybody in every situation can be pointed to the cross.

·         The “self-talk” that people are saying to themselves matters.

o    Listen for lies.

·         Good questions are key.

o    Assume you don’t know and ask. Assume you still don’t know and clarify.

·         Regularity is more important than frequency.

o    Be there.

·         People are more than their issues.

o    Relate to people on a variety of levels.

·         The Holy Spirit is the change-agent.

o    Pray with people.

May 31, 2021

3…2…1… no launch. This is the experience of many parents hoping to launch their kids into this wide world. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Craig Stickling and Roger Gasser give sound counsel to parents who have kids on the launching pad.

Systems Check for Launch.

For Kids:

  • Do they have roots?
  • Do they have wings?
  • Can they evaluate their thoughts?
  • Can they regulate their emotions?
  • Have they been taught about God?
  • Can they learn from pain?
  • Can they ask for help?
  • Can they engage in the community?
  • Does their independence include responsibility?

For Parents

  • We are stewards of our children. We do not own them.
  • We cannot dictate their beliefs and thoughts.
  • God has plans for them.
  • Do not protect them from pain.
  • Do not protect them from failure.
  • Do not make them into a version of yourself.
  • Give them freedom to make choices.
  • Expect to be disappointed at times.
  • Anticipate handing over control to a larger community.
May 17, 2021

3...2...1... no launch. This is the experience of many parents hoping to launch their kids into this wide world. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Craig Stickling and Roger Gasser give sound counsel to parents who have kids on the launching pad.

Systems Check for Launch.

For Kids:

  • Do they have roots?
  • Do they have wings?
  • Can they evaluate their thoughts?
  • Can they regulate their emotions?
  • Have they been taught about God?
  • Can they learn from pain?
  • Can they ask for help?
  • Can they engage in the community?
  • Does their independence include responsibility?

For Parents

  • We are stewards of our children. We do not own them.
  • We cannot dictate their beliefs and thoughts.
  • God has plans for them.
  • Do not protect them from pain.
  • Do not protect them from failure.
  • Do not make them into a version of yourself.
  • Give them freedom to make choices.
  • Expect to be disappointed at times.
  • Anticipate handing over control to a larger community.
  •  
May 3, 2021

Infertility is a private loss many couples experience. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Tyler and Casey Zimmerman share their story. Their journey will accent the uniqueness of the infertility pain. It will resonate with the losses that are common among us and it will heighten God’s unique and common love to all His children.

Like a fingerprint, infertility pain is common to all sorts of pain and yet unique.

  • Infertility is a private pain. “People have no idea of my pain.”
  • Infertility struggles to have closure. “It impacts every phase of life.”
  • Infertility pain is cyclic. “Maybe next month?”
  • Infertility grief is ambiguous. “I’m grieving what might have been, but I don’t know what that even is.”
  • Infertility can produce shame. “Why is God keeping children from us?”
  • Infertility has administrational headaches. “Why won’t insurance cover this treatment?”
  • Infertility treatment intrudes on your privacy. “Do you really need to know that?”
  • Infertility robs normalcy. “Everything about getting and having kids is different. The announcement, the baby shower, the experience, is different.”

Yet…

  • Infertility, like all pain, is seen by God.
  • Infertility, like all pain, is best cared for in a loving community.
  • Infertility, like all pain, can be that place where we meet God.
Apr 19, 2021

Infertility is a private loss many couples experience. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Tyler and Casey Zimmerman share their story. Their journey will accent the uniqueness of the infertility pain. It will resonate with the losses that are common among us and it will heighten God’s unique and common love to all His children.

 

Like a fingerprint, infertility pain is common to all sorts of pain and yet unique.

  • Infertility is a private pain. “People have no idea of my pain.”
  • Infertility struggles to have closure. “It impacts every phase of life.”
  • Infertility pain is cyclic. “Maybe next month?”
  • Infertility grief is ambiguous. “I’m grieving what might have been, but I don’t know what that even is.”
  • Infertility can produce shame. “Why is God keeping children from us?”
  • Infertility has administrational headaches. “Why won’t insurance cover this treatment?”
  • Infertility treatment intrudes on your privacy. “Do you really need to know that?”
  • Infertility robs normalcy. “Everything about getting and having kids is different. The announcement, the baby shower, the experience, is different.”

Yet…

  • Infertility, like all pain, is seen by God.
  • Infertility, like all pain, is best cared for in a loving community.
  • Infertility, like all pain, can be that place where we meet God.
Apr 5, 2021

Our teenage kids are under construction and construction zones are messy.  In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kathy Knochel and Jeff Waibel give us a few tips for understanding these formative years. Knowing a few things can go a long way in helping us get through the construction.

  • Remember you were a teen once. Attempt to put yourself in their shoes.
  • Remember to hear the message behind their behavior. What are they saying to you? Often young people don’t have the words, skills or maturity to say what they feel. Nevertheless, their actions are trying to tell you something. Some messages might be:
    • “I need your attention.”
    • “Do you love me?”
    • “I am embarrassed.”
    • “I feel guilty.”
  • Remember, whatever decision or behavior teenagers choose, it made logical sense to them. Ask them to help you understand their thinking. Follow up by asking them if they want to know how their behavior made you feel.
  • Remember their brain is still being developed. Their personality, sense of humor and ability to measure risk are all in the process of being formed.
  • Remember they are working out who they are – their identity. They are gaining ownership of their own values and beliefs.
  • Remember there are battles not worth fighting. Choose those battles that are central to your family’s values. Make big deals out of big deals and make small deals out of small deals.
  • Remember “the lecture” has never been effective.
  • Remember to share your views, faith and passion through conversations your teens will want to join. In this way we walk side-by-side and are not always nose-to-nose.
Mar 22, 2021

Our teenage kids are under construction and construction zones are messy.  In this episode of Breaking Bread, Kathy Knochel and Jeff Waibel give us a few tips for understanding these formative years. Knowing a few things can go a long way in helping us get through the construction.

  • Remember you were a teen once. Attempt to put yourself in their shoes.
  • Remember to hear the message behind their behavior. What are they saying to you? Often young people don’t have the words, skills or maturity to say what they feel. Nevertheless, their actions are trying to tell you something. Some messages might be:
    • “I need your attention.”
    • “Do you love me?”
    • “I am embarrassed.”
    • “I feel guilty.”
  • Remember, whatever decision or behavior teenagers choose, it made logical sense to them. Ask them to help you understand their thinking. Follow up by asking them if they want to know how their behavior made you feel.
  • Remember their brain is still being developed. Their personality, sense of humor and ability to measure risk are all in the process of being formed.
  • Remember they are working out who they are – their identity. They are gaining ownership of their own values and beliefs.
  • Remember there are battles not worth fighting. Choose those battles that are central to your family’s values. Make big deals out of big deals and make small deals out of small deals.
  • Remember “the lecture” has never been effective.
  • Remember to share your views, faith and passion through conversations your teens will want to join. In this way we walk side-by-side and are not always nose-to-nose.
Mar 8, 2021

Shaming our kids - good intentions, yet with unintended poor consequences. We’ve all done it. Parenting out of exasperation. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Craig Stickling and Brian Sutter take a careful look at the messages we are sending our kids. Fortunately, a very healthy and redemptive future is possible.

 

What is Shame?

Effects of Shame

Examples of Parental Shame

High-stakes Moments for Shame

How do we unwind Shame?

Discipline that doesn’t

Shame.

Nature of Shame

The idea that a person is, at their core, bad, unwanted and beyond repair.

Shame pushes your child into isolation.

“I don’t care!”

When our kids are being creative.

Call your child out from hiding and into community.

Separates their behavior from their personal worth.

Shame shames.

 

Shame says there is no hope. Because I’m broken and no one wants me.

“You are the only 10-year-old who doesn’t get this!”

When our kids are being vulnerable.

Enjoy your kids.

Breaks the will but not the spirit.

We will shame and will be shamed.

 

 

“You will never amount to anything!”

When we downplay interests and abilities that they have because they don’t match our expectations.

Celebrate their person.

Support guilt where it is appropriate.

Shame plays on lies and perpetuates lies.

Feb 22, 2021

When the last of the children leave the home, couples enter the “empty nest” phase of marriage. For some, this moment is met with welcome anticipation. For others trepidation. But for all, the moment marks a transition. All transitions require a certain level of relational care. In this episode of Breaking Bread, Roger Gasser and Kaleb Beyer speak into the care needed to thrive in this transition.

There are a few things that prove helpful to understand when entering the empty nest phase of marriage:

  • Understand empty nesting begins by way of a transition. Transitions move us from an old normal to a new normal. By nature, transitions can be disorienting. But with time and effort, a satisfying new normal can be achieved.
  • Understand the transition that needs to happen will circle closely to the change in roles that must transpire. Such a shift in roles may very well require a grieving of a past role and an acceptance of a new one.
  • Understand the role-shift experience will be felt differently from one spouse to another. For example, a wife who found her identity in rearing the children will undergo a larger shift than a husband who defines his identity apart from the children.
  • Understand empty nesting may affect the way couples connect. Connection can be understood by three criterions: availability, responsiveness, and engagement.
  • Understand flexibility will be key to thriving. Learning to share your family and your time will go a long way toward being able to find contentment and joy in the empty nest phase of marriage.
Feb 8, 2021

Signposts are helpful and orienting. They are helpful in guiding us from point A to point B. They are orienting because they assure us we are still on the right road. In this podcast series, Kaleb Beyer walks us through six signposts on the road to recovery from sexual betrayal. These signposts are both helpful and orienting.

Six Signposts:

  1. Appropriate disclosure: Betrayal plays on the illusion of truth. Through appropriate disclosure truth is brought to bear allowing for new relationship foundations to be set.
  2. Betrayal Trauma: It is important for the betrayer to understand the trauma that betrayal causes. Trauma will explain many of the thoughts, feelings and behaviors of your betrayed spouse.
  3. Triggers: Recovery will include triggers. In moments of trigger, you will be convinced forward motion is not happening. Yet, if you understand the nature of triggers, you will understand that you are in motion. Being able to evaluate this motion is important.
  4. Understanding addiction: The betrayed needs to understand the nature of addiction. Such understanding will help them understand the betraying spouse and why they do the things they do.
  5. Healthy boundaries: Boundaries protect. Spouses help protect the other by establishing boundaries. By way of boundaries, both safety and trust is built.
  6. Forgiveness: Following Christ’s example, couples extend the grace each needs to move forward.
Jan 25, 2021

Signposts are helpful and orienting. They are helpful in guiding us from point A to point B. They are orienting because they assure us we are still on the right road. In this podcast series, Kaleb Beyer walks us through six signposts on the road to recovery from sexual betrayal. These signposts are both helpful and orienting.

Six Signposts:

    1. Appropriate disclosure: Betrayal plays on the illusion of truth. Through appropriate disclosure truth is brought to bear allowing for new relationship foundations to be set.
    2. Betrayal Trauma: It is important for the betrayer to understand the trauma that betrayal causes. Trauma will explain many of the thoughts, feelings and behaviors of your betrayed spouse.
    3. Triggers: Recovery will include triggers. In moments of trigger, you will be convinced forward motion is not happening. Yet, if you understand the nature of triggers, you will understand that you are in motion. Being able to evaluate this motion is important.
    4. Understanding addiction: The betrayed needs to understand the nature of addiction. Such understanding will help them understand the betraying spouse and why they do the things they do.
    5. Healthy boundaries: Boundaries protect. Spouses help protect the other by establishing boundaries. By way of boundaries, both safety and trust is built.
    6. Forgiveness: Following Christ’s example, couples extend the grace each needs to move forward.
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